How are you? Have you had a good week and weekend?
Last week I wrote the first part of a blog about kindness. To be honest there is so much more to be written and I’m doing a second post on it this week but no doubt it will feature again in future posts. I’m learning a little bit about the power and strength behind it.
The power and strength behind US when we choose to be kind.
We all have goodness in us and most of the time people show this. I wanted to mention a few things people did for me this week; people close to me and strangers, but also people in between! As I wrote in my last post it’s a difficult time for me right now and people’s kindnesses this week have touched my heart a lot. One woman let me cuddle her collie dog which made my day!
What is it about animals that makes me feel so much better?!
My friends have sent some amazingly supportive and comforting texts and my family have truly looked after me and have been my crutches. I’ve started noticing smiles and compliments from strangers so much more; I actually accept them now and say thank you!
So what happens when you do or say something kind and actually the person doesn’t acknowledge or appreciate it?
Does this actually matter? It kind of feels a bit shit when you’ve done something kind and it goes unnoticed! However, maybe it doesn’t matter. Isn’t this more about who you are and the kind of person you want to be? Isn’t the important thing that you have been kind and caring regardless of the person’s reaction? Aesop’s quote is one that has stayed with me and I think of it quite often now:
“No act of kindness, no matter how small, is ever wasted.”
How do you show kindness to people? We all have our own ways; I have mine and I want to hear what yours are, either here or on Instagram. I tend to smile, let someone through the door, send a friend a little package if they are struggling, little things. I’ve also started feeling less cautious about speaking out. If I see a woman who looks beautiful then I will tell her. Yes she might think I’m strange! But I’m not worried about that. It happened to me a few months ago and god I still get those good feelings from it now. In a world where image seems to be everything and we all feel pressure, it’s nice to be told you look good.
Maybe it wouldn’t be such a bad thing either to compliment someone on how well they sing for example, or if they’ve done something really well to help you at work? This takes the focus off image and puts in more on our character and personality right? Obviously I’d love both haha! But I guess the former is a good ego boost and the latter better for longer lasting confidence? What do you think? I’m not sure I’d be so fussy… any compliment is welcome always! We all need each other’s kindness and compassion; this is where we are powerful I reckon.
I would so like to hear how people’s kindness to you and yours to them makes a different (or not) to you? Does it make you happier? Does it make you feel more energetic emotionally? Lighter or more generous?
Have a happy week everyone xx