Hi! How have you been this last week?
Autumn has definitely arrived and some of the days at the moment are beautiful! So I decided that the next two posts I write will be about this cosy season and how to enjoy it at its best.
Cosy is a feeling I think, a kind of energy maybe? Its comfort, like a cocoon, it’s soothing, reassuring and I don’t think it’s limited to only autumn and winter! For me, having drinks on a summer’s evening with friends is just as cosy as fluffy socks and a blanket in winter. Being cosy makes me feel happy and secure and CALM! The best feeling. My happiness levels go up and this seems to give me more energy and strength.
So what actually is it and how do we create it?
My Oma (my Dutch grandmother) had three rules for making a home cosy:
- A clean house
- Good lighting.
This forms a small part of a Dutch concept “Gezelligheid” (a tricky one to pronounce for non-Dutchies!!). It’s part of the Dutch culture and lifestyle that I have grown up with. There are some real similarities between Gezelligheid and Hygge, Hygge being far more widely known about. So I’ve been reading up on both to find out how The Netherlands and Denmark have become so good at it that they have their own word!
Gezelligheid describes the feeling of well-being we have when we are relaxed and together with loved ones (feelings of belonging). It’s the amazing warm feeling we get. It can be used for all sorts of situations, places, people or events.
Hygge in Danish or Norwegian describes feelings and moments of wellness, contentment and “wholeness”. They can be ordinary every day moments or something huge and amazing. Hygge isn’t a ‘thing’, but a way of noticing and enjoying the present in a simple, happy way.
How to get it?
We can light candles and knit fat blankets, but it needs to be something we feel just as much as something we do right? It’s that feeling we are looking for.
So I’ve been asking myself what Gezelligheid and Hygge means to me? What is my idea of cosy? What makes me feel happy, nourished and secure?
I’ve made a drawing of what makes a cosy autumn for me. Forgive the wobbly drawings! This helps to remind me how much there is out there to enjoy: forest walks, hot chocolate with my family, rich body butters to protect my skin, soft jumpers and a million shades of berry lipsticks! I like pampering myself, not just physically but mentally and emotionally too and these things help me do that. But I forget and get caught up in routines. So hopefully this drawing will remind me of the things which are good for me and which help me to feel cosy.
Would something like this help you?
- What do you need to feel cosy?
- What do you enjoy doing?
- Which foods, drinks and treats make you feel good as it gets colder outside?
We are all busy a lot of the time. We can’t do all of these things all the time. But I’m going to try and do a few each week to see how much it raises my happiness levels. I want to appreciate and enjoy what there is out there right now.
See my Pinterest board as an example of another way to record your ideas for happiness:
Part II will be about TREATS! So I’m already really excited about that! Warm, comforting autumn treats, recipes and more ideas for making each day a little happier.
Please let me know your thoughts; either here or on Instagram. Have a good week! xx